Some husbands may tend to take the vow of promising to obey to a whole different level. Although being submissive and obeying are a definite correlation to God's order. Don't get it twisted, you are not to be controlling or think you
can rule over your wife. She is not your slave, she is your partner. Your wife should be allowed to have her own thoughts and opinions, therefore you should always respect what she brings to the marriage.
In a marriage, you are to be submissive
one to another, yes husbands that means you too. Wives, being submissive doesn't mean you"re weak or giving up control over the things that you want in the relationship, it means that you are allowing your husband to be the head of the household
which is in direct obedience to God. He is to love and respect you as God loves the church.
In Colossians 3:18, Paul wrote, "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord."